Letting go can be scary. But
being free (of doubt, fear, guilt, negativity, etc) can’t be achieved without a willingness
to let go of those things that keep you trapped. Freedom is a choice that can
be life-changing. Here are some ways to achieve a better, lighter state of
being.
1. Stop judging yourself –
Release your expectations of who, how, where, and what you should be. Sometimes
it’s in the letting go of judgments and ideals, even if only for a while, that
allows you to move forward.
2. De-clutter – Clear off
countertops and tabletops. File away those important papers where they belong.
Sort through, give away, or simply get rid of any clothing you haven’t worn or
those household items that you haven’t used in the past year. There’s probably
someone out there who needs the very things you’re not using. Removing these
unused items from your life will open your life to new things and give you more
space to breathe.
3. Plan activities to look
forward to – Whether it’s seeing a movie with friends, visiting an art exhibit,
or a weekend away in a quaint B&B, give yourself something to feel excited
about. Living in a state of anticipation is better than living with a woe-is-me
or life-if-boring mentality.
4. Sit in silence – The key
element in meditation is to focus on the here and now. Simply be present in
this moment. When regrets from the past or fears about the future encroach on
your thoughts, gently refocus your attention on the present. Start slow—five
minutes is better than none—and gradually increase your meditation time until
you reach the perfect duration for you.
5. Make someone’s day – When
you find yourself feeling angry about the past or anxious and worried about the
future, find a way to help someone else. Make lunch for a friend in need, offer
a stranger a smile. Contributing to the well-being of others will make you feel
more positive about yourself.
6. Spend time outside – It
doesn’t matter where you go: the beach, a park, the mountains, a forest.
Spending time outside will quiet your mind and lift your spirits.
7. Unplug from social media –
We waste countless hours scrolling through timelines and post feeds. For what
purpose? As long as you’re connecting with family and friends, a little bit is okay.
But for the most part, social media sites put us on autopilot. Making a
conscious effort to strictly limit yourself will leave you more time for real
life experiences.
8. Starve your pain – Bad
memories are fed by the remembering of them. You can choose not to feed your
pain simply by being aware. When a bad memory floats into your thoughts, gently
but firmly push it away by replacing it with another happier memory or thought.
Let go of the bad thoughts; be free of the past. Not dwelling on the pain of
the past is the best way to starve it.
9. Keep a gratitude journal –
A gratitude journal doesn’t have to be elaborate. Every day (or night), write
down 5 things for which you are grateful. There’s no pressure here. If 5 is too
many, shoot for 3. Soon you’ll be looking for things in your day that you can
enter into your journal. Living with an attitude of gratitude is much more
positive than always complaining about or criticizing yourself, your life, or
your situation.
Now it’s your turn. Do
something. You can read dozens of articles on improving your life, but if you
don’t implement the suggestions then nothing will ever change.
What suggestions would you
add to this list? Leave a comment and help others let go and be free.
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1 comment:
Wonderful advice Donna. The truth is that we know we need to let go so many old patterns, but stubbornly hold on to them. I specially like the suggestion of physically decluttering the space around you. I give away things my family has stopped using on a regular basis.
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